Happiness is happiness

What’s a common misconception people have about happiness?

Happiness is a state of mind. So if you choose to be happy you will be happy. Some people have a hard time being happy. I am one of those people. I am very depressed because of my injury. I was shot in the head with a gun. I walk with a limp and my left arm doesn’t function well. The one thing in this world that makes me happy is a good fruit salad. Happiness is something to strive for, even though I can’t be happy every minute of the day, but I try to be happy by playing my drums and singing a little and writing a lot. Drinking coffee makes me happy also. So being happy comes in waves. There is not one person who can say I am always happy every minute of the day. Happiness is a state of mind. I guess people can make their life where they are always happy, but for me it is hard to be happy all the time. Thank you for reading. Have a great night.

This would be a good skill to have!

If you could instantly master any skill, what would it be and why?

Mastering stocks would be a good skill to have. Learning which stocks are good to have and putting in a little bit of money. Then, the stock pays me some money. That is a skill I wish I had without putting in a lot of money and then finally they pay good. I guess, any stock that is worth getting. I have to put in a lot of money, so it can pay me some money. I guess I have to save up some money. Then, when I have enough money, put it in the stock market. Thank you for reading. Have a good night.

Getting to know my neighborhood!

What is one way you have grown this year?

When the moon is out at night. It makes the pic very special to me. The way I have grown is by walking in my neighborhood and seeing more of my neighborhood, than I have when I would drive through my neighborhood. So it has been a really good experience for me. Seeing good places to eat, such as Cheddars and realizing it was there was an eye opening experience. I would just drive by it and not realize it was there. When I walk, I see more places to try and go to. Thank you for reading. Have a good night.

Do something else!

What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?

When I was 20 years old, I was on tegretol for seizures.  All I wanted was my bed. I was exhausted from the day
I was working my custodian job at the Blake foundation. I was going to Pima Community College. I had not chosen a major, until 4 years later. I chose Social work for a major. It did not work out for me. I would have told my 20 year old self to get a degree in teaching because that is something I can do is teach with my disability (shot in the head). I would have focused on teaching earlier than waiting until I was 24 to major in something I cannot use. So, I could have been teaching for a long time and get my 30 years in and retire and live off the pension. Social work was not my calling. I am disabled and can’t type really well. So doing the paperwork would be a hassle. I know there is a dragon software. A program that allows you to speak into a microphone and it will type the words on the screen for you. Maybe sometime in the future I can look into that. I would also tell my 20 year old self to get into the stock market. So, I could have that money to fall back onto. Thank you for reading. Have a good night.

Here’s my guide to healthy boundaries, just examples

Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

In relationships, it is necessary to set up healthy boundaries so your lover knows where you stand on certain issues, such as checking in all the time throughout the week. You can call a few times a week, but if they call constantly. You will have to set up boundaries to let them know it is not all right to call all the time. Another effective way to deal with people who call too much is to turn your phone off, but that is not dealing with the main problem. It is better to talk to them about it.  I have said this before, communication is key in any relationship.

You must set up parameters around yourself to protect you from being worn out or feeling burnt out. If your lover is always around. You need to set up time to be alone without your lover around because the heart grows fonder with their absence.

You need to set up healthy boundaries for your physical, emotional, and mental health.

If your lover needs to talk a lot. You definitely need a break before you feel you need to break up with them. So set boundaries to address a time to be apart or to see friends instead of always being with your lover. If, your lover and you fight a lot. It is better to take some time away from each other to breathe. Then, come back and have a discussion about the issue civilly. Before, it turns physically assaulting, which is not good, or someone calls the police on you. Then, nothing good comes from that. So healthy boundaries are necessary before going into a relationship. By telling your lover what you will tolerate and not tolerate is an important issue to deal with at the beginning. So, both of you are aware of the rules of dating each other because some people have been alone for a long time. So, healthy boundaries are needed in all situations where a relationship exists. So, people will know what they are getting themselves into and be aware of their lovers rules. So, there are no surprises when it comes to dating someone. Thank you for reading. Have a good night.

If it is possible. We can do it

Do you think humans will ever colonize Mars? What would life there actually look like?

With advances in AI and how AI is changing everyday. AI will soon take over many jobs. All AI has to take over is building buildings and we can have Ai build us something on Mars. They would need a fleet of AI robots to build something for us. They would possibly have to be independent thinkers and hold a charge for a long time. Or, they would have to be able to charge themselves, which would make them very advance. The robots would have to be very smart in constructing us a compound that we would live in. The compound would have everything to sustain life, such as oxygen, air, food, water, and shelter. We could not go outside the compound, unless we had on suits that had oxygen in them. There would be a training on how to handle life on Mars. I suppose, life on Mars wouldn’t be that different than on earth, except you would need to wear a suit to go outside the compound. Say, you wanted to take a walk outside the compound. You would put on a special suit to do so. The suit would have to be equipt with oxygen. It would probably have to be more advanced than the suits they wore on the moon.
My predictions is it would be like this on mars. It would be very desolate and there would only be desert life with rock. It would be hilly and valleys. I am guessing sort of like the grand canyon.
This is my best guess of what life on Mars looks like. The Grand Canyon in Arizona. The tectonic plate movement and a river of water that dispersed dirt, mud, and rock over millions of years made the grand canyon. So Mars, may have similar aspects to the planet, yet there is not water there. I bet there is ice there because the planet is colder than earth. We would need a fast rocket to get us there, that can hold a lot of fuel because my guess is that it is pretty far. Life on Mars would be a tale in itself. If we ever make it there. Thank you for reading. Have a great night.

Memes more memes

What’s your favorite meme?

This is a great meme.  They all make me laugh. Smudge the cat is my favorite meme because the woman is yelling at the cat and the cat always has something smart to say back to her. It developed out of the Karen trend. Where women were labeled Karens if they were entitled, demanding, and often confrontational people. Mostly associated with women with obnoxious behavior.
Smudge the cat came out in June of 2018, but didn’t go viral until May 1, 2019 on Twitter, which is now X. Thank you for reading. Have a good night.

What a cultural tradition

What’s a cultural tradition from another country that you wish existed in yours?

The Swedish tradition of Fika. It is a relaxed coffee house vibe. It translates to coffee and pastries break. It is a mandatory daily ritual of Swedish culture. The American way is to go through a drive-thru and pick up an iced coffee and stare at a screen solo. Fika is an intentional pause.

Fika is not on the go. You sit down. It is centered around a little light, comfortable seating, and a warm atmosphere.

Fika always includes pastries, such as a cinnamon roll and coffee. It is a social connection, but you can Fika alone to clear your mind or meditate. It is usually a social event. It is usually time to catch up with friends or brainstorm with colleagues or meet someone new, without the pressure of lunch or dinner.

Around 10AM and again at 3PM, Fika is usually built into the work day schedule. Management and staff sit together at the same table, leveling the corporate hierarchy. Studies show that these structural pauses don’t hurt productivity. They actually help create problem solving and prevent burn out, by giving your brain a rhythmic reset during the day.

It is the perfect antidote to a fast-paced environment and replaces the hustle with a deliberate comfort and community. I wish they would do this in America. We sure could use a little more Fika. Thank you for reading. Have a great night.

Visiting mistakes when it comes to the US.

What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country?

Visiting the US might seem like a dream come true for some people, but the US is beyond perfect. We have a big divide between the poor people and the rich people in our country. Our country is based on capitalism which is an economic system where private individuals or businesses own the means of production (tools, land, and factories) and operate them for profit rather than the government. So, this is the first lesson that has to be made. So, if you have the funds available. You can come to the US and get a business going, such as a cellphone business ie. At&t or Cricket. The government doesn’t run those companies, businesses do. So, if you want to come to the US, be ready to spend some money. The inflation in the country is high, 4.2% and gasoline is at 40.5% over the past 12 months, which makes it the most gas has cost in a long time. The strait of hormuz is not open so gas prices might go up further. So, if you want to rent a car be ready to pay a lot for gas. Trump says he is making a deal, but I am not certain about any deal.

Be careful what neighborhoods you go in. Make sure, you have Google maps and do your research about certain cities before you get there so you don’t get lost and wind up in an awful part of a city. Usually, sticking close to downtowns or beaches or places with a bunch of lights on at night, or lots of people. You shouldn’t have that much problems in those places. Just  be smart, stay out of cities and bad areas of cities, so you can enjoy and be safe.

The weather fluctuates here. It can be sunny in one part of the country and rainy and snowy in other parts. So you need to do research about the weather so you know how to dress for it. We also have tornadoes and earthquakes and big hail, but if you come sometime in the spring to summertime. You should be able to alleviate these problems, but northern to central to far east have rainy seasons even in the spring and summer. So just do research on the area you are visiting.

I can’t stress enough, if you are going to plan a trip to the US have plenty of money. Thank you for reading. Have a nice night.